Parents are constantly wondering if we’re doing it right: Are we too enabling? Too controlling? Are my expectations too high? Too low? Are we preparing the kids to be independent? Teaching them all they need to know to become a responsible adult? Should we be more flexible or more stringent? What if they do it wrong? Is what they’re doing enough?
Here's an article that might help - comfort or challenge you.
https://yourteenmag.com/family-life/communication/exhausted-parents?fbclid=IwAR3pgx-FRW8eFQaTLDrjLRbIaxQijNBkTXkPv5e8JfnQjZWt31DIPlpqtR0